Men are barraged by images of women in their underwear. We see them in movies, on billboards, in magazines, on the internet - all over the place. This means that we are extremely used to seeing women wearing
(a) expensive underwear, and
(b) matching bras and panties.
Furthermore, the women wearing all this nice, coordinated underwear are hotter than 80 % of the female population. While I honestly believe a lot of girls could actually get close to that top 20 % if they worked at it, in the meantime, you can do yourself a favor by not wearing mismatched bras and panties. Your failure to do so only highlights the differences between you and the lingerie models that have long ago pegged our standards for female beauty. And this is one difference that takes very little effort to correct, but makes a pretty big difference. You can make all kinds of excuses about not having the money to afford nice stuff, but there is no excuse for not wearing a matching set. You can get that shit at Walmart.
And one more rant: I get it that girls throw on the matching or nice stuff when they know they are going to have sex. Great. Appreciated. However, it is infinitely more impressive to have spontaneous sex with your girl and find her wearing matching (or nice) underwear, because it is all the more rare. It says she pays attention to detail and is classy.
I love your blog, but this is really picky. I only wear nude, seamless bras because I don't have to worry about people seeing my hot pink leopard bra under my blouses, or protruding pintucks, seams or other details when I wear tight shirts. They may not be your view of "nice" (fancy, impractical) but they are high quality and meant to let me wear clothes, rather than the clothes wearing me. There's underwear and then there's lingerie.
ReplyDeleteThey don't have to be studded with sequins or anything - just matching. Nude bra, nude panties. Plain, but it matches. That, and most guys can't even tell the difference between expensive lingerie and average lingerie, so I wouldn't worry too much about price.
Delete...k, so that's for under the clothes. What about sleepwear? Does it matter what you wear to sleep (like with your bf). Thanks for the blog, btw. Went out and bought like five pairs of huge earrings to try out (instead of little small conservative hoops) last week. Can't tell if they work on me, but they're kind of more fun.
ReplyDeleteLet me start off by saying I love your blog. As a a single 24 year old woman, I have throughly enjoy reading all your posts. But I must say that I have a hard time agreeing with this one. Dont get me wrong, I understand the importance of sexy lingere - infact I don't own a bra without lace on it. I take pride in my fabulous bra and underwear collection. And I know I can't speak for the male mindset, but if I'm wearing a sexy bra and underwear combination - does it really matter I'd they match perfectly? For example: woulnt you rather see a girl in a black lace bra with a red lace thong, than a boring cotton bra with granny panties to match?
ReplyDelete"If I'm wearing a sexy bra and underwear combination - does it really matter I'd they match perfectly?"
ReplyDeleteMaybe I should have defined "match." Match does not necessarily mean a set that is sold together and is the same color, etc. It DOES mean that the bra and panties compliment one another.
Un-matching example:
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Matching example (left and right both work):
http://busts4justice.files.wordpress.com/2011/08/freya-eden-and-pier.png
Even better matching example:
http://www.blogcdn.com/www.styledash.com/media/2006/09/snipshot_6an5qo5iu.jpg
Andrew, I entirely agree with your post. I personally always make the effort to wear matching lingerie, whether it be at work or social functions but more importantly if with a guy!
DeleteLingerie is an incredible turn on for guys; they love it! I had a guy so obsessed with my lingerie that on two occasion he stole my laced panties from me. I got home wearing nothing underneath haha! He couldn't tell me enough how much he loved it, and almost looked forward to see what I would surprise him with next time!
Lingerie is sexy and the confidence a woman exudes knowing she is wearing matching, lacey, or whatever underneath is invigorating. Almost like a little secret between her and her body!
You can be sure your boyfriend cares what you sleep in. You don't need to blow him away with the sexiest thing in the world, but just like clothes, the fit should compliment your body and it should work with your personal color. There are plenty of things that are sexy and comfortable. And remember that looking good every day (or night) is more important than looking different every day (or night). Get a few things that flatter you - and that he likes - and take care of them.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, he is just as responsible for taking care of his appearance as you are (even if you don't care what he looks like as much as he cares about your look). If he sleeps in socks and an ugly pair of boxers, tell him he looks bad and should get some nicer stuff.
Even when I'm not in a relationship, I'm in the habit of sleeping naked. Would a guy think that's better or worse than me sleeping in pretty lingerie/nightgowns?
DeleteI don't think this is the case... I nornmally either sleep naked or in a single pantie. So does my boyfriend (only in his case its boxers). It depends on a purepl practical case of having had sex that evening/having gone to bed together that evening, or not. As for my normal underwear, i like nice stuff but I hardly match. What Andrew will never understand, is that a girl can be in a particular bra and panties mood, and then only those two can do, no matter the matching. Comfy bra? see-through blouse? Let's say I am wearing a nice sheer red working top. But all my red panties are in the washing. Why can't I pop on a nice lacy black knicker with my red bra?
DeleteThis is ridonk. Your whole blog is ridonk, but this in particular.
ReplyDeleteI have better things to do with my time and money then coordinate my undies. Most of the men I sleep with seem more interested in getting them off me, anyway.
Then why did you come here? :)
Delete"Most of the men I sleep with...." Enough said! This blog isn't about how to get laid, no offense! This particular article is a fun tip that you don't have to follow if you'd rather ignore the first thing that you put onto your skin, but to write off this whole blog as ridonk is so unfortunate!! This is some of the rare good advice that's out there. I found it in a different avenue, but once I found it, I was able to see which men really were into me AND my coordinating undies and which ones were "more interested in getting them off me". I dress for me anyway. My boyfriend is just lucky enough to see them!
DeleteActually, I thought this was interesting. I never ever thought that matching bra & panties mattered. But it's interesting to hear that it might matter to a man. I don't care about the 'it will help a man be interested in you'. That part honestly is b.s. to me - if you are looking for a good relationship, he should already want you for other reasons. BUT I am indeed interested in pleasing the great man I already have and making him very happy in the bedroom because he means so much to me .. so if matching underwear is an extra turn-on for him, that's great to know.
DeleteSarah, yeah, some women are like you, lucky and don't need to spend their time on this stuff to pull men... but the rest of us could use the help. Thanks (Andrew?) for taking the time to do the blog, much appreciated!
ReplyDeleteI just buy all black bras and panties regardles of cut (bikini, thong, etc) or fabric (lace, cotton). And then I usually have at least one red bra and a few pairs of red panties. But I never wear light colored clothes that necessitate white or beige undergarments but if I did I'd just buy 1-2 bras in that color and several panties to go with. It's not like you need a set in every color of the rainbow. I've been doing this since I was 23 and I'm about to turn 34 in February.
ReplyDeleteThat's smart.
ReplyDeleteI love when a guy takes 2 seconds in bed to appreciate my matching pairs before taking them off... it shows that details are important to him and he is paying attention to my efforts. What girl can resist a guy looking at you in your pretty bra and undies and say "you are so beautiful", sex will be better..
ReplyDeleteI would go for colors that contrast your skin tone, for me its black, blue and red.... and garters, i LOVE those! not just for sex, wearing something sexy and beautiful underneath really makes my day...
I can't wear bras with underwires thanks to the shape of my ribcage (before you ask, I've gotten a bra fitting -- I know my size, and that still doesn't help). It kind of feels like being stabbed in the side with a pen all day, regardless of the brand or style.
ReplyDeleteI've transitioned to wearing bras without underwires, but let's be fair: there are less options there, and most of the options are quite plain. I try to make up for it with some fabulous, colorful, lacy thongs. Acceptable trade-off?
i am a girl i don't always wear matching bra and panties i have mainly have black and pink bra and panties right now i am wearing black bra and pink panties
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very true.. if i find my girl wearing matching bra and panties especially when sex is spontaneous, it really is a killer..
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ReplyDeleteTruly said out of the whole population in the world most of women who are in the field of modeling use to wear mismatch undergarments only. There are very rare women who uses normal undergarments for regular usage.
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What about wearing no underwear? I stopped wearing underwear entirely about 5 years ago out of personal preference (definitely not to turn on my now ex-husband who I was trying to avoid sleeping with). The 2 guys I've slept with since my divorce have discovered this naturally (as in, I didn't tell them) and both said it was really hot. It's not something I do only when I think I will be having sex, now that I've gotten used to not wearing panties, I find them uncomfortable. Thoughts? Maybe wear them sometimes to change things up?
ReplyDeleteI'd say wear them normally and once in a while leave them off. It is pretty sexy on occasion, but mostly when it is unexpected, and it can't be unexpected when you do it all the time.
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ReplyDeleteIs a matching set better than wearing just panties/no bra?
ReplyDeleteIf the dress/top requires you to go braless, is just a nice set of panties okay?
no to the first question, yes to the second.
DeleteAnd I actually agree with whoever said that men seem to be more interested in women without any underwear. For our anniversary last week I bought a nice silk red number with black lace at the bottom and top. I looked and felt lush. It was off me within 15 seconds and spent the rest of the evening by the bed on the floor. What was the point of those £60 again??
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ReplyDeleteIs it okay to sleep naked all the time? And NOT wear underwear at all? :D No seriously I hate clothes, the more freedom the better
ReplyDeleteif I wear a dress or skirt though which is pretty well anytime I go out, I will actually wear a bodice or complete lingerie set.
in order to have perfectly matching bras and panties youd have to have so many different bras, complete waste of money
at home I wear lace panties, nothing to bed, outside if I do happen to wear pants...youll never see a panty line
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Lingerie is your sexy secret that shows itself through your confidence. If you have a man who is lucky enough to see it, he will definitely appreciate it!
ReplyDeleteBeing confident with your body is one of the sexiest things a woman can do, and wearing a good bra will help. With so many styles on the market these days, women must consider not only proper fit and cup size, but an almost endless variety of colors and fabrics.
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I don't wear panties most of the time. And I find that leaves a man more pleasantly surprised then matchy panties ;) a sexy bra is always nice though
ReplyDeleteThe cluelessness here astounds me. Here's a bit of education.
ReplyDelete(1) When you buy a bra, buy 5-6 pairs of matching panties. Victoria's Secret often runs sales where you can get 5 pairs of panties for $30, or whatever.
(2) Not wearing underwear is a signal to a man you're easy. If your goal is commitment/cohabitation/marriage, wear panties.
(3) The five seconds a man spends taking your panties off is extremely valuable; do some research on "the lift".
Victoria's Secret only carries bras up to a (small) DD cup.....so buying bras and 5 pairs of like/matching panties isn't a possibility for women who have breasts larger than that
DeleteI asked my husband and he agrees. Not that they must be sold together but that they match as in "go" and don't clash.
ReplyDeleteDude, I wear a 38H....my bras routinely cost over $100 each....and buying panties that match is expensive.....I.have matching sets, I wear matching sets when I know it will be showcased, but doing that on a daily or even a few days/week frequency is impractical because of the expense. On regular days I aim for at least similar colors or fabrics
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ReplyDeleteI choose to wear matching underwear and stockings and to dress from the 'inside out' because it makes me feel more confident, put together as an individual and boosts my own self esteem. It means I'm prepared for any situation, be it the wind blowing my skirt up, being run over a bus or an unexpected delicious sexual encounter. Ladies, do this for yourselves first; you'll feel so much better, you're confidence and femininity will shine through, and the men, as shown in this blog, will thank you for it.
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