A reader, Caroline, recently commented on the post about large earrings, offering an explanation about why they are attractive. I thought it was worth sharing:
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This seems on-point. Thanks for the comment Caroline. If anyone else has seen this explanation and remembers where, please post a link in the comments."I'm pretty sure I read somewhere that earrings create the illusion that the wearer's features are more concentrated in the lower part of the face, thus making them more attractive. Children have big foreheads with their eyes being about half way down their face. So this appearance equals youth, equals fertility. Supermodels e.g. Nathalia Vodianova, Lily Cole, Miranda Kerr have retained this facial structure into adulthood."Big earrings also contribute to the impression of facial symmetry and draw attention to the cheekbones. Also, as you age, your jawline becomes less defined. I'd say hoops [and other large earrings] draw attention to your jaw, so this is another way they make you look young. I'm just spouting pseudo psychology here but I think to varying degrees there is truth in all these points! I also agree with the comment about them being traditionally 'ghetto' and the appeal of the slutty edge they give an otherwise nice girl."
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I tried the large hoop earring thing dressed as an expensive prostitute at our last Christmas party and oh boy did it work wonders.
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The party was a venue where there were lots of different companies having their Christmas parties, so there was a lot of eye-candy.
Got a 23-year-old guy constantly chasing after me now (no thanks, I'm 35-years-old) and I don't think I've ever had so many compliments in my life (been to many parties before).
Try it, it could be fun!
I like this look sometimes (like in the more formal setting shown above) but I don't make it a daily thing. One reason that I'm hesitant is that on my medical school exams, any test case that mentions a female patient wearing very large earrings (especially with makeup or a low-cut top) is usually a tipoff for a personality disorder!!! I do think it can be a cute look, but I try to avoid the "hot but crazy" vibe I associate with this now because of school. Advice to the ladies: maybe stick to smaller earrings on a date with a physician or medical student to avoid this association.
ReplyDeletePlease note that I'm not implying that anyone who wears these is crazy! I don't think there's actually any evidence for a higher prevalence of personality disorders among women who wear these, just some anecdotes from the psych faculty.
Must have been at your medical school only; I have never seen this association being made at mine!
DeleteLarge earrings direct the viewers gaze closer to the centre of the T-zone, that head-shoulders-chest area that people of both sexes look at on each other when they're attracted to them. Bare shoulders, dog-collars, necklaces do the same.
ReplyDeletePersonally, large earrings look garish to me. They advertise both narcissism and a personality that's neither warm or gracious enough to attract people through other means. More than this, however, they transmit the message to other women that jewellery and make-up (girl-game) is normal and acceptable instead of what it is - sexual manipulation. Further, if what Caroline suggests is true and large earrings are worn to make the face look youthful like a childs, then one could argue that it is also encouraging pedophilia.
Women the world over vilify men who are attracted to much younger women but when it comes to the devices they themselves use to facilitate this response they plead innocence. Sexual manipulation of any kind is all the same. Game, make-up, large earrings (if Caroline's suggestion is correct), push-up bras, coyness, baby-talk, feigned innocence etc.
If you're going to discuss large earrings as a mens to make a woman look youthful then discuss also sexual entrapment of adult men by teenage girls.
"If you're going to discuss large earrings as a mens to make a woman look youthful then discuss also sexual entrapment of adult men by teenage girls."
DeleteWHAT?!
"they transmit the message to other women that jewellery and make-up (girl-game) is normal and acceptable instead of what it is - sexual manipulation."
DeleteDude, if you think the use of jewelry is sexually manipulative, you are reading the wrong blog. If you haven't noticed, half of the posts on here are telling women that they should play UP their sexuality visually, while BEHAVING more conservatively.
I am not going to argue against you on this point, since I think we have fundamentally different views here and it would be a waste of both of our time; but to the people who agree with what I write on this blog, you sound like a fanatic so I suggest you try converting a more receptive audience to your way of seeing things - for your own sake.
Your vocabulary may be superior but your logic is not.
DeleteIs this the same guy ranting about the epidemic of predatory lesbian nurses? Weird.
DeleteHe's a Christian who is prominent on several men's rights web sites that mostly advocate anti-feminism and anti-modernism. Do a google search on his name and you'll come across a whole lot of men's web sites out there who are quite hostile towards women in general. The anti-suffrage posts specifically on a site called Patriactionary were eyeopening.
DeleteIts incredibly far fetched to suggest wearing make up and jewelry are tools to manipulate men.Most women like to look good because it makes them feel good, and it attracts men.There is nothing wrong with that.
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DeleteCan I suggest you reflect on your own words and apply a little of the little grey cells God has given you to connect the dots. The dots are big, so it shouldn't be hard.
If it helps, let me say this: jewellery makes women feel good because it draws the gaze of men to their faces and/or T-zone, which engages their sexual interest. It's manipulative because it does this to ALL men, even those with whom the woman in question has no intention of engaging sexually.
"There's nothing wrong with that"
If it draws men to you in a sexual way (even if it's not sexual for you) so you can then pick and choose who you want and discard the rest, then it is wrong. The standard I use for wrong and right is the Bible. What's yours?
@Andrew
"I suggest you try converting a more receptive audience to your way of seeing things - for your own sake."
Most people with a mind of their own write for the purpose of influencing others. Why would anyone comment otherwise? If all we're wanting to do is agree with each other then you may as well turn off the comments section. The truth is that all of your commenters, even members of the lowing herd, are trying to influence others either by agreeing or disagreeing.
People, all it takes is a little thought and a little open-mindedness to appreciate the points I'm trying to make here. It may interest you to know that I don't always agree with my own comments but I make them because occasionally someone else writes something so morally vacuous it cannot pass unnoticed. You all know what I mean (I've been reading this blog for a very long time). I really do believe it's for their own good to have someone pointedly mark out the extreme view, so they can recognise their folly.
I'm not the best writer and my ideas don't always come across the way they're intended, so please do present a reasoned argument or rebuttal when you think I'm wrong. Some of you are doing it already, so thanks.
Hopefully, with your help, we will all be the wiser at the end.
Dear Ian,
DeleteI am a religious muslim woman and I completely agree with your points. I feel what you are missing though is Andrew is teaching women how to ATTRACT a husband, not how to attract a husband in a moral way (otherwise he'd be writing about how you can meet guys in churches rather than in bars).
I can see how you think wearing large earrings is sexual 'manipulation'. You are causing all men to be turned on by you and you can only marry one man. But women are so hopeful to find 'the one' most of them won't mind (I'm talking about the ones that don't follow a moral code like the Bible anyway because they don't believe in it in the first place). I feel this is to their own detriment but obviously others will disagree, and I feel that's fine -everyone is entitled to feel good about themselves and make decisions on their own accord.
Yes I feel what you're saying is completely true and I completely agree, but keep in mind unless others have the same religious or moral views as you, your words won't mean anything to them -these women are just trying to attract a husband visually in whatever way they can and Andrew is helping them to do just that.
If men follow a moral code like the Bible, they should choose a more conseratively dressed wife and as such, the religious men will marry the religious women, and the sexually manipulative men will marry the sexually manipulative women. At the end of the day, the scale will weight out, what goes around comes around.
P.S as a religious woman I'm personally very thankful for Andrew's advice because I use it to keep my husband visually attracted to me -nothing morally wrong about that. Andrew's advice is true and good for the purpose of attracting men, whether or not you use the advice in a morally good way is completely up to you.
DeleteThank you Eiram Hashem for a wise and meaningful criticism. I note that I don't expect anyone to agree with me, or even to understand, just to evaluate my arguments thoughtfully and reasonably, in good faith, and without reaching impulsively for the baseball bat or the ban hammer. The Rules are all about relating better with one another.
DeleteWad?!... Oh, just let me wear my earrings in peace.
Delete~ Cath
Large earrings are traditionally "ghetto"?! Wow! I think that large earrings are traditionally ethnic. Pick an ethnicity, any ethnicity.
ReplyDeleteHaha Caucasian is an ethnicity, but white girls don't wear them much...
DeleteBut I get your point, a lot of non-white women wear hoops, even if they don't live in the ghetto. Still, I think Caroline's point is true in the sense that these women usually have an edge to them - at least more of an edge than your average white girl...
I should clarify that by edge I mean a "sexy" edge - they are usually less conservative in their dress. I am talking about black Americans, Latinas, Indian Americans, Middle Eastern Americans, etc.
DeleteI'm trying to say that there are cultural differences regarding what is considered beautiful adornment for women. Large earrings, large jewelry in general, heavy eye makeup, etc. is considered beautiful, not slutty or ghetto, in many non-White cultures.
DeleteI would not wear large jewelry in a professional setting, and I don't believe that Andrew was suggesting such.
I agree with the medical student Andrew. You are very Californian in your taste. Outside of West Coast surfer towns and exotic desert countries, I just don't see this big earring look being taken seriously or positively in professional circles. Not even in the nighttime contingent. Those earrings are too large and heavy- pulling down on her earlobe, that will require plastic surgery if it rips the earlobe. Beautiful women do not need this level of artifice.
ReplyDeleteBig earrings are feminine :) I agree with Andrew. I think the main idea is to extenuate your femininity by wearing dresses, big classy earrings, healthy looking hair...etc. If you are in a social circle that is too conservative, then simply break the cycle and stand out.
ReplyDeleteThese earrings looked good on Nicole - but is there a point where large earrings can get "too big" for a girl's face and overwhelm her?
ReplyDeleteYou know, in theory there should be a limit, and maybe for other men there is one, but I find even the the biggest hoop earrings attractive. E.g. http://www.iheartthat.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/06_3/hilaryduff2.jpg
DeleteThe way I see it, you should never categorically rule them out based on size - until they are impractical to wear (when they hit your shoulders, for example). In all other cases, try to get a second (male) opinion if you have doubts.
I love big dangling earrings. They elongate the face and highlight a woman's neck, the same way in which a long necklace is so effective at highlighting cleavage or a bracelet shows a feminine wrist. I have quite a round face with a high forehead so they work well with me.
ReplyDeleteI love wearing large silver hoops and im a 16 year old male. They make me feel good looking along with a cute tanktop
DeleteIt depends. I don't disagree in principle, but in practice I am very petite and big earrings look horrible on me. Small, delicate earrings suit me much better and I get many compliments on them. If I wear big earrings, my friends tell me that they really don't suit me!
ReplyDeleteP.S. In contrast, I have a friend who is 6 foot tall and big earrings look simply amazing on her.
ReplyDeletePeople take things way too seriously. If you don't agree, fine, whatever. There is no official way to do anything. Don't come down on the guy for his opinion and preferences.
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DeleteI enjoy your take on big earrings. My impression was always that big earrings were one of those "man-repeller" things that women like but men don't get. I've always liked hoop earrings...and right now I can't find my favorite pair. :(
ReplyDeleteI've worn large hoop earrings to work as a paediatric doctor in the U.K.
ReplyDeleteIt gets you a lot of attention, even in the emergency department a mother would sometimes comment on them! I didnt wear them to attract men but because I really liked the look and used to pull my hair into an up do to show them off.
I used to be very shy about my body so I found it a good way to dress up whilst not having to show a lot of skin.
Is it the width of the earrings that men find attractive, or is it just the fact that it's long & dangly? Can I create the same effect by wearing long but thin earrings?
ReplyDeleteTo some extent long and thin works too.
DeleteMy guess is that longer and thinner would work well on a rounder face, whereas they might lengthen a thinner face too much.
The initial question was about big hoop earrings, right? (Rather than the dangling sort and so forth.) I think the answer about big hoops is simple--they remind men of boobs. The bigger and rounder the better.
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