The Analogy Between Sexual and Emotional Support

In the comments of the post Never Say No To Sex, a reader recently described the following situation:

I'm a 27 year old woman and I love my sex. I do however disagree with you on putting out when I don't feel that I want to. A great number of men that I've come across tend to be self-centered when it comes to sex and a great number also tend to be oblivious to how their woman feels (emotions at the time).

I give my man 100 % of my attention, emotionally, physically, spiritually. I dress in sexy underwear and clothes to keep his attention (although this may also be accompanied by unwelcome attention from other man), but I do my part.

The only thing that I have a problem with is when my partner cannot take me saying no to sex with him. It drives me completely mad. I think at times it's childish behavior and really unnecessary and it puts pressure on me, not to mention insecurity on the man's part. 

I don't know what the big deal is about not having sex for one or two nights. 

I may be talking out of my nose right now, but this is just how I feel about it. As a result, if my man behaves in the manner as I described above, I just don't have sex with him until I feel like it. It may take 2-3 days until he rectifies his attitude and understands that no means no, it does not mean that I don't love you or that I'm not interested in him at all.

In the post, I'd drawn an analogy between a man's need for his woman's sexual efforts and a woman's need for her husband's emotional efforts:

Saying no to your man when he wants sex is analogous to him saying no to you when you look to him for emotional stability, direction, comfort or protection: though it is not the only reason he is attracted to you, it is the primary one... A woman who attends to her man's sexual needs is like a man who attends to his woman's emotional ones. Conversely, a woman who neglects her man's sexual needs is like a man who neglects his woman's emotional ones. 

So in response, I asked her to consider her attitude using this analogy, and I transcribed her complaint into the male equivalent.

I'm a 27 year old man and I love my emotional connection with my wife. I do however disagree with you on supporting her emotionally when I don't feel that I want to. A great number of women that I've come across tend to be self-centered when it comes to their emotions and a great number also tend to be oblivious to how their man feels (his need for sex).

I give my woman 100 % of my attention sexually. I struggle to be strong at all times, even when difficult situations arise (although this may also be accompanied by unwelcome attention from other woman), but I do my part.

The only thing that I have a problem with is when my partner cannot take me saying no when I don't want to be there for her emotionally. It drives me completely mad. I think at times it's childish behavior and really unnecessary and it puts pressure on me, not to mention insecurity on the woman's part. 

I don't know what the big deal is about ignoring her problems for one or two days. 

I may be talking out of my nose right now, but this is just how I feel about it. As a result, if my woman behaves in a needy manner, I just avoid intimate conversations with her until I feel like it. It may take 2-3 days until she rectifies her attitude and understands that no means no, it does not mean that I don't love you or that I'm not interested in her at all.

Sounds like he is a complainer, right? Hopefully she sees the parallel...